Saturday, January 24, 2015



And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.

I love this verse from the Apostle Paul. As he wrote to the believers at the church in Philippi he had a deep confidence that the Lord would continue the work He had begun in each of their lives. As I sit here at my desk penning this final devotional, I feel the same way. There is no denying that God has started a good work at Casa View in 2015...and as a student pastor I have had a front row seat!

Verve Youth Church returned last Sunday from our annual Winter Chill retreat. We took almost 90 students and leaders! And man did the Holy Spirit work powerfully! God wasn’t done at Winter Chill though...this past Wednesday in our midweek service we had 12 young people give their lives to Christ! Can I say it again...God has started a good work!

So as we come to the end of this twenty-one day journey, I want to express what a joy it has been. Just a few short weeks ago we resolved that 2015 was going to be more than the changing of the calendar. We declared that this year is going to be the changing of a season. Just like the earth has seasons, sports have seasons...this is our season for experiencing God in an unprecedented way. As a church we resolved that we would yield our lives to God in a way we never have before, going ALL IN with the promise that as we draw near to Him, He will draw near to us (see James 4:8).

So the question I want to leave you with is this—SO NOW WHAT? Will you go back to “business as usual” or will you continue to remain ALL IN? We have been repetitious in stating that the goal of the ALL IN campaign was to “jump start” a new journey of faith for us as a church, and for you personally. Pursuing God like never before. Having faith for the impossible. Connecting intentionally with our church family. Releasing our talents and finances for the glory of God. My hope and prayer is that you would not look at this three week journey as something you can now check-off of your “to do” list. Instead, choose to view this time we have had together as a catalyst to ignite a deeper level of dedication and passion.

Since I will not be sending out daily readings each day, I would like to make you aware of some resources to keep you going on this exciting new journey. I know some of you access your devotionals in different ways. I am hopeful that one of these three options will get you going!

If you are “old school” and like reading from an actual book that you hold in your hand, here are some great daily devotionals:

The One Year Bible
Jesus Calling (Sarah Young)
My Utmost For His Highest (Oswald Chambers)
Experiencing God (Henry Blackaby)
Sieze the Day (Dietrich Bonhoffer)
Unto The Hills (Billy Graham)

If you prefer reading devotionals on your computer or laptop:

If you have a smart device and wish to use an app:

Lucado Life Lessons Mornings With Tozer Streams In The Desert Jesus Calling
Daily Bread

I hope this helps you! Remember...the Christian life is not a sprint, it’s a marathon. Run to win! Make every step count! I will see you out there on the road. Love you guys!

Friday, January 23, 2015


MATTHEW 6:19-21
“Don’t store up treasures here on earth, where moths eat them and rust destroys them, and where thieves break in and steal. Store your treasures in heaven, where moths and rust cannot destroy, and thieves do not break in and steal. Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be.”

“No one can serve two masters. For you will hate one and love the other; you will be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.”

MARK 10:25
“In fact, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to enter the Kingdom of God!”

Today I am going to talk about a subject that makes many Christians uncomfortable—money. This topic has become “off limits” in many American churches. You can preach on heaven (and sometimes even hell). But don’t talk about money! This is interesting considering that Jesus taught more about money than heaven and hell combined. So why don’t churches talk about it? Why is it so taboo to talk about money? I have a few thoughts that come to mind.

People have seen the corruption in the church involving finances. It has left a bad taste in peoples’ mouths. You have seen this, right? Some slick-backed hair televangelist insisting that God wants you to be rich. All you have to do is send in your $1,000 “faith offering” and the miracles will be released into your life. So there is a widow lady on a fixed income who is barely making ends meet. She desperately desires a miracle. So she sends in her mortgage payment believing that God will honor her faith. The miracle never comes and she is worse off than she was before. But at least the TV preacher has a new Jaguar to drive.

Many churches feel that to be culturally relevant they cannot talk about money. To do so would require “turning off” the “seekers” who are visiting the church. We don’t want people thinking we are just after their money, right? So in an effort to not offend, some churches side-step the money conversation.

I don’t mean this to sound harsh, but I think some Christian leaders are simply ignorant on what the Bible says about money. They don’t realize the importance that finances play in both the Kingdom and the life of the believer. It’s not on the radar, so it never gets brought up.

Let me say a couple things before we continue. Our church will survive whether or not you give. How do I know this? Because it’s not really our church. It’s His church. God will supply and take care of what is His. So if you think I am writing this today because we are nervous about making the mortgage this month you would be mistaken. “So why are you writing this?” you may be asking. Fair question—let me answer. As you know we have been on a campaign these past few weeks to go ALL IN. ALL IN in our pursuit of God. ALL IN in our faith. ALL IN in connecting with others.

What I have found to be the case for most Christians is that the last area of their life they are willing to go ALL IN on is their finances. We love Jesus. We will pray and read the Bible. We will go to church. We will volunteer and serve. Heck, we might even show up at a home group. But don’t start talking about money! Like Linus with his blanket, we will not let go! We will gladly relinquish our time and talent, but don’t try and touch our treasure.

Some of you reading this right now are getting uncomfortable. Even agitated. My question to you is why? Why does it bother you to hear me talk about finances? I would suggest it’s because your money has become a god in your life. Rather than being a tool to serve you, it has become your master. Have you ever considered maybe that’s why you are so defensive and protective? Have you ever thought this was what Jesus was addressing when he said “You cannot serve both God and money”? Riches have the potential to become our god. And when push comes to shove, many want that god rather the God. Jesus’ analogy is interesting—“It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to enter the Kingdom of God!”

In Jesus’ time, most cities were surrounded by a giant wall, which fortified the city. This kept the bad guys out and the good guys in. There were small openings in the wall that allowed people to enter in and out of the city. These “gates” were somewhat oval-shaped, quite similar to the eye of a needle. When someone came to the city and was traveling by camel, getting through that wall was no easy task. They would have to remove everything off the camel. They would then have to get the camel down on its knees. Then they would have to lead the camel through the “eye of the needle” in the wall. Talk about difficult! Jesus used an example that His listeners no doubt could understand. That camel only gets through the wall if it is stripped of everything, placed in a lowered position, and willing to come through the gate.

Do you see the parallel? If we wish to enter the Kingdom of heaven, we must strip off everything. We must humble and lower ourselves. We must come through the gate, Jesus. This analogy is timeless. Jesus is teaching us that most people are not willing to give up everything to follow Him. And one of the hardest things to let go of is money. Our human nature is greedy. It is counterintuitive to let go of something everyone else is chasing after.

So here is the perplexing dilemma, the questions we have to raise—is money bad? Is it wrong to be rich? NOT AT ALL! The Bible talks plainly that we have to have money to live. God is pragmatic. He knows you need clothes and food (see Matthew 6:31-33). Furthermore there were people in the Bible who were freakishly rich! Read it for yourself (see 1 Kings 10:23). Money is not bad. Where we get in trouble is when we love money more than we love God. As Paul wrote to Timothy (1 Timothy 6:10), “The love of money is the roots of all kinds of evil.”

So here is the perplexing dilemma. We have to have money to live and yet we are not supposed to love money. So how do we balance these two? The answer is simple—YOU GIVE! Generosity is the cure for greed. By honoring God with the first ten percent (called the tithe) of your earnings, you are declaring His lordship over your life. By releasing the tithe to the Lord, you are safeguarding your heart against money’s corrupting power. By releasing the tithe, you are allowing our church to grow and expand our ability to more effectively reach our community for the Gospel. Our ministries can be well-equipped when the people of God invest in the Kingdom. And beyond this, you are storing up treasure in heaven. Jesus admonished us not to invest in things “here on earth, where moths eat them and rust destroys them, and where thieves break in and steal.” Your spiritual 401-K is eternal! Why not invest in it generously?

Here’s a final encouragement to give, this time from God Himself in Malachi 3:10—“Bring all the tithes into the storehouse... If you do...I will open the windows of heaven for you. I will pour out a blessing so great you won’t have enough room to take it in! Try it! Put me to the test!”

Thursday, January 22, 2015

Adopted By God

ROMANS 8:15-16

So you have not received a spirit that makes you fearful slaves. Instead, you received God’s Spirit when he adopted you as his own children. Now we call him, “Abba, Father.” For his Spirit joins with our spirit to affirm that we are God’s children.

I love the beauty of the Gospel message. The “Good News” that can transform lives. As I said this past Sunday, the Gospel is not about slapping Jesus’ name on a group of people who already have everything in common. The Gospel is powerful in that it can take people who have absolutely nothing in common and unite them under the banner of God’s relentless love. So while we may come from different backgrounds and ethnicities, we are all part of the same family. Paul declares that we have all been adopted by God. The Apostle Peter says it this way in 1 Peter 2:10:

“Once you had no identity as a people; now you are God’s people. Once you received no mercy; now you have received God’s mercy.”

Isn’t that beautiful? We were lost and living apart from God. Orphans with no identity. But God who is rich in mercy loved us and adopted us. He called us His own. And now we call Him ABBA (Aramaic for “Daddy”). That means we are family. We don’t serve God out of fear (we are not slaves Paul says). No. God is our good and loving Father. We serve Him and love Him because He first loved us (1 John 4:19). It is a gift to live in community because it constantly calls us back to what God has done for us. When you look at the face of your brother and sister from your church family, may you be reminded of God’s gracious act of adopting us into His family.

Today I want to do something different. Rather than have you read a lengthy spill about God calling us His sons and daughters, I want to share a video with you. I have two good friends that are a part of this story. Chris Lindberg is the pastor of Life Fellowship Church in Allen. He is a phenomenal leader who has greatly influenced my life. Chris and I have been friends for more than thirteen years. One of the members of Chris’ church is a man named Bill Wegener. I have known Bill for close to fifteen years. He has one of the most amazing life stories you will ever hear! Will you take six minutes and watch the Vimeo video link below? I promise that you will be blessed by the testimony of this dear brother in the Lord. I shared it with our students last night at Verve Youth Church. The impact was visible.

Maybe you are reading this today and you are not a Christian. Maybe you have been curious about God but have never entered into a personal relationship with Him. Maybe the scars of life have left you feeling like God would never want you. Will you please watch Bill’s story? If you have questions after watching, please contact me at my personal email

Grace and peace to you today.

Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Who Needs You?

It was the summer of 1999. The summer before my senior year of college. I was the interim middle school pastor at Northplace Church in Sachse. The guy who was leading that ministry had resigned and moved to Arizona. The church needed someone to oversee the students in grades 6-8. I was already interning there, so they “promoted” me (although looking back on it, I am not sure it’s ever a promotion when it involves working with middle schoolers—those kids smell funny). That summer was incredible! I went on my first mission trip to Mexico. I took a group of about 20 students to youth camp. It was a blast. At the end of the summer the lead pastor approached me about becoming the permanent middle school pastor. I explained to him that my parents would kill me if I didn’t finish my last year of college. So the church hired me part-time while I finished up at Southwestern University. I was thrilled!
Everything was going great at the church, but soon some logistical issues arose. I was going to school in Waxahachie, an hour away from Sachse. I would commute on Wednesday nights for our student service, driving over and then drive back in the same night. I would come over on the weekends also, but I had no permanent place to stay. I was hopping from one home to another. Sleeping on this couch one weekend, that couch the next. I had friends who were gracious to help me out, but I felt I was rapidly wearing out my welcome. To put it simply, I needed a consistent place to crash on the weekends. I brought this issue to my pastor and he had a solution: “Why don’t we just announce it one Sunday morning to the church, and see who is interested in hosting you?” Sounded easy enough. And sure enough that’s what happened.
The next Sunday Pastor Rick had me join him on the stage and he let it be known that “the middle school pastor is needing a family to host him on the weekends.” At that moment a woman named Carol McMillan nudged her husband Mike on his side. “I think the Lord wants him to live with us!” Mike was not so sure this was the Lord speaking. As I would later find out, he thought I was a total dork. Apparently he was not impressed by my hairstyle (shaggy and unkempt) or fashion choices (I was going through a thrift shop phase at the time). But Carol’s persistence prevailed. The McMillans offered to host me and I accepted.
I would be lying if I said I wasn’t initially nervous, and understandably so. I had never even met these people, and now I was going to be living with them. I was unsure of how well we would gel (that rhymes by the way). Let me just say that after my first weekend at the McMillan crib, all my fears were relieved (for several reasons):
1) Carol cooked PHENOMENAL meals! I was used to the college staples of Ramen noodles and dollar menus. This lady was serving me chicken fried steak, mashed potatoes with gravy, green beans, hot rolls, and cake for dessert. All of it cooked from scratch! Yes ma’am! I will live at your house as long as you will let me.
2) Mike and I hit if off instantly. We had so much in common. God. Sports. Bathroom humor. What else could I ask for?
3) And then there were Rachel and Amanda, Mike and Carol’s daughters. I grew up with brothers, but never had sisters. But now I did. Ages 3 and 5.
In a short period of time it was crystal clear to me that the Lord had arranged this whole thing. My time with the McMillans was going to be about more than having a bed under me and a roof over me. God was giving me the hookup, depositing something extremely valuable into my life. I was being given a front row seat to how a Christian home is supposed to function. Some people learn about marriage and parenting by studying books or perusing websites. I was going to learn by witnessing it first-hand. In the day-to-day grind of life, this man and woman were preparing me for my future.
It has been almost 15 years since I spent that year with the McMillans. I didn’t realize at that time just how much they were pouring into me. I learned so much in that year, and I learned it because they were modeling it before me. I am not sure they even consciously realized that I was watching them, taking mental notes, sponging up everything they had to offer. I think they were just being who they really were—every day people striving to glorify God in their marriage and family. The Lord knew I needed what they had, and He graciously allowed me access. I have often wondered what if Carol had ignored the prompting of the Holy Spirit that day. What if she dismissed what she felt the Lord was leading her to do? I can say this much, I would have missed out on one of the greatest seasons of my life. That man and women became like family to me. And they still are.
So fast forward to March 12, 2005. It was the day I married Christie. As we stood at the front of Covenant Church everything seemed surreal. Were we really getting married? All these questions were racing through my mind: “Do we have what it takes to make this work?” “What will we do when hard times come?” “How the heck do you raise kids?” Toward the end of our ceremony, we invited Mike and Carol to join us on the stage. We asked them to pray a prayer of blessing over our marriage. We asked God to do for us what He had done for them. And almost ten years later, He still is.
During this decade long journey I cannot tell you how many times I have asked myself the question, “What would Mike and Carol do in this situation?” I learned so much about being a man from Mike. I saw him work so hard to provide for his family. I saw him serve faithfully in the local church, both as a home group leader and a deacon. He was a man of discipline—getting up early to work out, managing his finances well, and also maintaining time for friendships. He and Carol worked in tandem raising their daughters. I saw how they loved, laughed, and disciplined. Those girls have turned out to be incredible young ladies. Rachel is in her second semester at Dallas Baptist University. Amanda is about to graduate from Rockwall High School. They both love the Lord passionately. When Christie and I think about raising Caris, I think back to how Mike and Carol raised their daughters. So much of who I am and how I function as a husband and father is traced back to their example.
Let me say something. This devotional today is not about marriage. It’s not about raising children. I am writing today about being obedient to God. I am writing about pouring your life out for the good of others. You may not believe this, but there are others who need what you have. There is no one else in the world, or the Kingdom, who is like you. Your gifts and talents, your stories and experiences. All of them comprise the unique composition that is you. What are you doing to impart who you are into the lives of others? Who could benefit from your life? Please stop and ask yourself that question. Far too many Christians discount their ability to influence others. Don’t be one of them! There is someone out there that you can be investing your time and energy into. I believe if you will say “yes” to doing so, the Lord will show you who they are.
There is a young man growing up without a male role model in his life. There is a single mom who doesn’t know how she is gonna make it. There is a teenage girl who is struggling with identity and self-worth. There is a widow who needs help with chores around her house. There are so many people who need people. The church should be a community of men and women who are always asking the question, “Who needs me?” And we should be faithful to give ourselves away for the good of others. I wonder how many lives in our community would be impacted if we lived “on mission” this way.
“We all have different gifts. Each gift came because of the grace God gave us. Whoever has the gift of prophecy should use that gift in a way that fits the kind of faith they have. 7 Whoever has the gift of serving should serve. Whoever has the gift of teaching should teach. 8 Whoever has the gift of comforting others should do that. Whoever has the gift of giving to help others should give generously. Whoever has the gift of leading should work hard at it. Whoever has the gift of showing kindness to others should do it gladly.
9 Your love must be real. Hate what is evil. Do only what is good. 10 Love each other in a way that makes you feel close like brothers and sisters. And give each other more honor than you give yourself.” (Romans 12:6-10)

Tuesday, January 20, 2015

David Had A Little Lamb


These past few days we have called the church to go “all in” on living in Christian Community. In Sunday’s devotional I gave you some connection opportunities. Here are a couple more that some of you may want to take advantage of (especially those of you living in the Mesquite area):

Saturdays at 6:00 PM | 2728 Spring Rain Drive Mesquite, TX 75181 | Craig and Socorro Brey 214-478-8299
Young Married Couples | Sunday Twice a Month | Next Meeting is THIS Sunday, January 25 | 2520 Woodcreek Mesquite, TX 75181 | Pastor Karl Tingle 214-448-1396

Today I want us to examine the theme of accountability. Some of you reading this are new to the Christian faith and may not understand exactly what “accountability” is. In short, accountability is the practice of Christians “looking out” for one another spiritually. This could be something as simple as checking in with someone to see if they are maintaining a healthy habit of prayer and Bible study, or something as aggressive as confronting someone about an egregious sin in their life. The truth is we all have the propensity to fall into apathy and compromise. Even the most committed among us need someone standing guard over their soul. While some Christians are resistant to the idea of needing accountability, the Bible is clear that even the godliest man or woman can fall prey to temptation. As Henry Ward Beecher says, “All men are tempted. There is no man that lives that can't be broken down, provided it is the right temptation, put in the right spot.”

I think this truth is most notably played out in the life of King David. Many people recognize David as the young shepherd boy who defeated a Philistine giant named Goliath. While this definitely looks good on David’s resumé, there is something else that is even more impressive. David has received the mother of all compliments from none other than God Himself. God, speaking of David, refers to him as “a man after my own heart (see 1 Samuel 13:13, Acts 13:22).” Wow! Is there any greater compliment in this life than to have God declare that your heart reminds Him of His own? Forget winning a Grammy or an Oscar. Forget the Nobel Prize. There is no greater honor that could be bestowed upon humanity. David’s heart is so God-like, that God can’t help but promote David from shepherd to warrior to king.

So what was it about David that caused God to look upon him so favorably? That’s an interesting thing to ponder because David is somewhat enigmatic. On the one hand he is a rough and rugged warrior. As a shepherd he killed lions and bears. On a stage bigger than a UFC headliner he absolutely destroys Goliath. It wasn’t enough to kill Goliath with a stone to his forehead. David followed it up by cutting Goliath’s head off with Goliath’s sword. Then as a warrior in the Israeli army, David becomes a legend. So awesome is David at kicking the butts of God’s enemies that people literally sing songs about how “David has killed his tens of thousands.” So I think we can all agree at this point that David is a man’s man. And yet this Braveheart is also a passionate lover of God. He is a worshiper. Wielding his harp, he composes beautiful songs to the Lord. David is Jason Bourne and Chris Tomlin melded into one man. And God loves this warrior-poet.

So let’s jump ahead in the story. As the King of Israel, David has experienced phenomenal success. His kingdom is thriving. His subjects love him and his enemies fear him. He is at the top of his game. Success is all he has known. But then the story takes a dramatic turn. All of David’s victory has caused him to become prideful and overly confident. Not only has he never backed down from a fight, he has never lost one. But on one spring afternoon he will be defeated by an enemy he never saw coming—his own lust. Instead of fighting on the field of battle, David decides to “sit this one out” and hang back at the palace. In this ego-driven state he takes notice of his married neighbor bathing. David doesn’t look away. No—he grabs his binoculars, throwing gasoline on the flames of his lust. He sends for her, then sleeps with her. He sends her away thinking his “dirty little secret” won’t be revealed. Wrong. Bathsheba is pregnant. David has to cover this up, so he summons her husband off the battlefield. When Uriah returns home to Bathsheba he will surely make love to her, right? Wrong. Uriah sleeps on the steps of his home. He does not have it in him to sleep in his own bed when his buddies are living in tents on the battlefield. David learns of this and makes another attempt at it. This time he throws a party and gets Uriah drunk. Surely any red-blooded man who is good and “liquored up” will go home to his wife, right? Wrong. Even in his drunken state, Uriah has more character than the king he serves. He again sleeps outside his front door. So now David has to bring out the big guns. He will send Uriah back to the battlefield. Before he leaves, David gives him a sealed letter and asks him to pass it on to the commander of the army, Joab. Uriah is unknowingly carrying his own death certificate. David has written to Joab, instructing him to have Uriah struck down in battle. Joab sees to it and Uriah is dead. So now David is safe, right? Wrong. God speaks to a prophet named Nathan, revealing the secret sin that David has committed. Let’s pick up in 2 Samuel 12:1-12:

So the LORD sent Nathan the prophet to tell David this story: “There were two men in a certain town. One was rich, and one was poor. 2 The rich man owned a great many sheep and cattle. 3 The poor man owned nothing but one little lamb he had bought. He raised that little lamb, and it grew up with his children. It ate from the man’s own plate and drank from his cup. He cuddled it in his arms like a baby daughter. 4 One day a guest arrived at the home of the rich man. But instead of killing an animal from his own flock or herd, he took the poor man’s lamb and killed it and prepared it for his guest.”
5 David was furious. “As surely as the LORD lives,” he vowed, “any man who would do such a thing deserves to die! 6 He must repay four lambs to the poor man for the one he stole and for having no pity.”
7 Then Nathan said to David, “You are that man! The LORD, the God of Israel, says: I anointed you king of Israel and saved you from the power of Saul. 8 I gave you your master’s house and his wives and the kingdoms of Israel and Judah. And if that had not been enough, I would have given you much, much more. 9 Why, then, have you despised the word of the LORD and done this horrible deed? For you have murdered Uriah the Hittite with the sword of the Ammonites and stolen his wife. 10 From this time on, your family will live by the sword because you have despised me by taking Uriah’s wife to be your own.
11 “This is what the LORD says: Because of what you have done, I will cause your own household to rebel against you. I will give your wives to another man before your very eyes, and he will go to bed with them in public view. 12 You did it secretly, but I will make this happen to you openly in the sight of all Israel.” 13 Then David confessed to Nathan, “I have sinned against the LORD.”

You want an unedited image of what accountability looks like? Here you have it. One believer is boldly confronting the other. Nathan crafts an incredible “tale” of a man who stole something very valuable from another man—his single beloved lamb. David is enraged! “This man must die!” he exclaims. But then the prophet turns the tables on him. “You are that man!” David is busted. There is no tip-toeing around it. No more hiding. His sins have found him out (see Numbers 32:23). So finally he quits hiding, pretending, and covering up. He comes clean and confesses.

Let’s land the plane. What is the take-away from all of this? It’s really simple actually. First off, all of us are capable of falling into sin. All of us includes YOU. If you are reading this and think you are incapable of falling into sin, can I lovingly tell you that you are thinking foolishly? Only a pride-filled person would believe that. The Bible warns us about the danger of our pride preceding our fall (see 1 Corinthians 10:12). And besides all that, didn’t we just read a story about a man “after God’s own heart” who fell into grievous sin? Don’t think that you are untouchable. Secondly, we see our need for people who will get in our face and confront our sin. Do you have anyone in your life who will love you this way? Or have you surrounded yourself with cowards who are more worried about you liking them? It takes a TRUE friend to call you out when you are sinning. That’s TRUE LOVE. Someone who sees you sinning and doesn’t speak up does not love you at all. Would you call someone a good parent if they let their child play in a busy street? Why would you call someone a “good friend” if they sat quietly while you play Russian Roulette with sin?

If a “man after God’s own heart” needed tough love and accountability, what makes us think we don’t? The great irony is that often times we get angry at people who see us drifting into sin and speak up. We claim they are “self righteous” or “judging us”. That could very well be. OR, and more likely, they are speaking up because they love you and don’t want to see you make a mess of things. Don’t resist accountability. You need it! I need it! One of the greatest gifts God can give you is someone who has the courage to speak up when they see you slipping. Do you have a Nathan in your life? Is there anyone who loves your soul at that level?

This is yet another reason to get connected to a small group. You need to be known. Can I echo what I said on Sunday—you will not find someone like this if you are on a “Sunday mornings only” plan. Take that next step and go all in on being more connected.

“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10).”